A guide to handle your Bengali lady love

I admit the topic is not my own, I came across something similar and while I was reading it, realized this is short and there are ten thousand things that I could have added. The blog ended abruptly, leaving me hankering for more and I decided that more has to come form inside, so here goes..

So If its a Bengali lady who holds the rein to your heart, you need to know and understand the following:
(I will make it simple, the way I like it)

1. Don't assume she is a fan of just the effervescent Rabindrasangeet. The hip hop Bollywood numbers, the latest on VH1 etc maybe on her playlist as well.
2. Take her to a mall and not visit the bookstores? Not happening! She needs to browse through the bestsellers, the latest Indian writers and the Booker prize winners. Chances are high that she will have them on her fingertips.
3. The panipuri or chat guy who sits right around the corner form your place is an absolute go-to guy every week (If not everyday). The way to a happy bong woman is through her Fuchkas!
4. Learn a few harmless bengali 'gali'..Some like - gadha, goru, boka, chhagol, paagol are handy. So you know when and at what point you got her upset. She is sure to use them in abundance.
5. If she is your mrs too, then let her sport that long sindoor mark. It is a sign of love and affection, longer it is, more is her affection for you.
6. Talking of sindoor, she is bound to be in love with everything RED. Research has proven that bong women are absolutely mad about the colour. Some things are better untouched.
7. If its Pujo time, she will bring her entire wardrobe together with the aim of outdoing the best benarashi clad 'competition' she sees at the pandal.
8. There is a connect between the bongs and chini bhai's over our love for food. A part of every Bengali palate is dedicated to everything Chinese. Why should she be any different! Chinese dinner every week is a must.
9. Your neighbours will soon be dada's and boudi's and not necessarily mr and mrs. I believe its endearing and maybe you can join her.
10. The biggest I have reserved for the last. Humour her when it comes to her sweet-tooth. She is bound to have a big one!

Sour memories

Human Brain is an amazing thing. Take a moment from your hectic/ slow/ no work at all schedule and give it a thought. Say Thankyou and look amazed!

For instance, I have discovered in the past few days, one of my colleague has changed her ringtone. Now it so happens she has the same ringtone that I possessed at a time. Old Ringtones and alarms have this weirdness about them, a single hint of them anywhere, any point of time, they are certain to make you alert and pull you towards them.

Why I mention this particular ringtone? It invariably takes me to a time when life was very different from now. To a time, which will never come back again. The fact that time can't be brought back from the dead and gone, makes me sad and is yet a relief in a lot many ways. I wish I could share what am I referring to, but we live in a complicated world. People judge and don't understand. They pass comments and hide. They laugh together and cry alone.

So whenever her phone rings, the following happen in matter of seconds:

1. My heartbeat rises
2. I crane my neck to look at the exit, to make sure he hasn't come for me
3. I see a red scooter parked outside.
4. A small window
5. A Golden wind chime, by the window
6. Me in a worn old nightwear, crying my heart out.

The above are remains of what I have battled, achieved, lost and been awarded in my life of 2 years in Bangalore.
Sometimes I am glad I have a new chapter to contribute to and the old days are well behind me, or am I not?